Hey there screaming at you from Texas to heaven, hope you have a Happy 43rd birthday. Can you believe it we’re 43 you were taken from us when you were 26. It doesn’t seem like that much time has passed yet Wesley and I are about to celebrate our 20th wedding anniversary so really that much time has passed. I haven’t really got to talk to any of the kids lately but I do keep up on Yunique’s Facebook post so I get to see pictures of your grandson pretty regularly she’s actually really good at keeping up with it. But nothing is the same without you. I wish that I could have told you how amazing you were it seemed like I spent a lot of our friendship nagging at you about the things that you were doing wrong. Which until I became a mother I realized the difficulty it is to be a mother. No matter what I do no matter what I say no matter what the outcome of anything ends up being I always feel like I’m doing everything wrong. I work overnights so I sleep during the day and I hardly have any time for doing anything. I feel like my daughter sometimes is without because I’m not there to nurture her. But I also realize that I have a lot more time with her than you have with your kids. All those little things that you would do that would drive me crazy, are not far from the things that I myself would do now. Really I just wanted to wish you a happy birthday to let you know that we’re still thinking about you and that if things were different which sometimes it’s pointless to Hope or to think that things could be different, I would have hope that whatever we were fighting about would have been over and we could have gotten over whatever was standing in between us. So I still kind of have a little bit of insight to what your kids are doing yet I still feel like I’m so far away. Well anyhow I am going to fold some laundry do some adulting and lay down so that I can get up and go to work tonight. I’m pretty sure we would have been partying or going somewhere out tonight if you’re still here. But these kids aren’t going to raise themselves so I guess we better be adults. – Monica
Category: Dear Serena
Richard Cooper Dunivan
Dear Serena,
So the day has come and Yunique has given birth to a beautiful, heathy Baby Boy. Honestly all I can think about is and what your face would look like holding your grandchild. Is completely beautiful. I was technically trolling through Yunique’s facebook 2 to find your grandson’s complete name and I came across a picture of your greystone. Now I went to your funeral I saw what you look like in that coffin it broke my heart. First I already know you and I had a discussion when you lost your baby and your mom passed away that you didn’t want to be buried in the ground that you wanted to be cremated. That scares me more than anything that when I die that somebody is not going to listen to my wishes. Second the post with the picture on Yunique’s Facebook page says it’s hard for her on your birthday. I commented on that post and after I was done I felt like I was being insensitive because I commented that March 10th it’s harder for me then November 10th. Which March 10th has just passed by a few weeks ago. When I think of that day I think of a fight or an argument that we got into that removed us from your life. Something so insignificant that should have just been squashed from the very beginning instead it made it impossible for me to tell you what you being in my life meant to me. It got in the way of us being a family like we were. It was reason we were not there when you needed us the most.
Hey girl this past year I have been able to be apart of Seth and uniques lives without really being in their lives without a rooting them and forcing them to care about us. Honestly you need told me she couldn’t remember what they were right Seth had to call me on a face chat so that he can remember my face. What scares me more is I hope that they never forget yours. I hope they never forget your voice. I hope that in all the mistakes that we made that’s hey grow from them and make their own mistakes and live their own lives.
Seth and Yunique were the first children that I loved unconditional, that where not blood related to me. My experience with them is the foundation of my parenting tactics. The funny thing is, that Wesley has shown to be far more patient than I am with our kids. Is excellent at explaining more difficult subject matters in a less complicated manner. I wish you could have met my daughter Neva. She is a trip. Sometimes things come out of her mouth and I don’t know whether to laugh, cry, or slap the taste out of her mouth.
Work, Family,and Friends according to Momo 